My husband says he loves me, but he doesnt desire me ualy nor emotionaly? does he really love me?

We've been married for over 2 years.. He proposed 3 weeks after we met.. I accepted (Dont ask me how I did, I dont know), got married 3 months later.. but we were in different countries meanwhile.. we got married, I moved with him, left my family, job, friends.. everything.. I started from scratch.. he has a good job.. I managed to have a good one after few month. We were doing ok.. then, I got attracted to another man after a while.. I always thought I was happily married.. never even noticed that he doesn't desire me (both emotional and ual wise) till I met this another man.. My eyes became wide open to all of that.. In a first year of marriage we would make love maybe once every 2-3 months.. Is that normal? he kisses me like a mom kisses a baby.. I had to really really arise him to look at me.. I would wear the most beautiful lingerie, he would still not look nor desire me.. and I am a beautiful girl (not trying to brag).. I then fell for another.. He also had drinking problem.. but he never abused me.. he is a happy drunk.. he says he adores me.. never disrespected me.. ever.. such a big heart.. generous.. but at the same time, prefers the boys' company to me.. he likes to drink bear.. hang around with the guys.. chit chat on small talks (which I can't handle..), would not do anything with me, no common interests, spend all weekend watching TV and not doing things with me.. Is that normal for a man who loves his wife? I could not share this with family or friends.. my surrounding is very judgmental.. please tell me.. Does he really love me? or Shall I walk away.. is it normal for a man who says he loves his wife, not to desire her?