What do YOU think should be a fiance's role in a soon-to-be step child's life as far as discipline?

Wow...you are curious. I just recently married my boy friend of 3 years. I have a five year old daughter from another relationship and we have a two year old son. He entered my daughter's life right before her 2nd birthday. Now that you know a little bit of background let me tell you what I think. I think that worrying too much about might make it harder for them. (they can feel your tension) I say put them together in a room alone as often as possible and let them be boys together. Your son may be having a hard time with this because before your finance he was the man in your life. I can't really tell you how the discipline should be handled but i can tell you how it is here. Because my husband has been here for as long as my daughter can remember, we share discipline. Her dad is in her life but more as a weekend dad, you know ice cream, candy pop, see you in 2 weeks. I think that if you just leave them to it they will figure out how their relationship needs to be on their own. For now, do what you can to get them to spend time together.